One Reddit user asks the internet if he’s an asshole for telling his fat girlfriend that being fat makes her unattractive.

Little does he know that this is an all too common horror story.

From the Reddit post:

AITA for telling my girlfriend of two years, her weight is becoming an issue

Title says mostly all of it. I have been with my girlfriend for over two years now and things have been rocky here and there but for the most part we have been fine. As time has gone on I’ve noticed she doesn’t care what she puts in her body, chips for breakfast or poptarts for dinner, she just does not care. On top of this she hates physical activity, and everyone has their issues, but I think it was starting to boil over. None of this is due to stress or anything of that sort, it’s just the way she is. I’ve gotten into cooking a lot and have been trying to cook healthy meals for the two of us. She loves it, but it’s only 2 or 3 meals for the whole week, everything else is her own diet. I’ve tried taking her to the gym with me, but she mostly sits on her phone and complains that she’s there.

When we first started dating I used to ask for sex a lot, and she didn’t mind going with the offers, most of the time. The problem there is I’ve slowly lost sexual attraction for her, and I can’t help it.

She asks why I don’t try to have sex as often all the time, and I avoided the question by saying things like “I’m too stressed” or “I don’t feel it today” which makes her mad. So during one argument when I told her I wanted to finish my work maybe we could have sex another time, she called me on my bullshit. I’ve always felt as a man, I should never comment on a woman’s weight, even if she is this close, but I felt like lying does more damage. I told her the truth, I said that her weight is becoming an issue. She needs to watch what she puts into her body and actually start exercising. This went as bad as you could expect, she started grabbing a lot of her stuff that she keeps in my room (we don’t live together) and started throwing it away. She was mad I couldn’t just love her despite the weight, and honestly I was too.

For reference I am in relatively good shape. I run marathons, and swim a ton. I’m about 6 foot at 150 lbs she is 5 foot 2 around 170lbs.

She immediately left and I am sitting here not sure if I did the right thing. Am I the asshole?

The only reasons why women would want to engage in physical activity are:

• To get male attention, both through the process (the act of wearing skimpy gym clothes) and through the results (the act of wearing skimpy clothes with a nicer body)
• To avoid a beating

If they are already receiving male attention and they’re not getting beaten, there’s no real incentive for them to move their asses.

Beating women is the most effective way of getting them in shape, but it’s currently illegal.

So what can you do?

The answer is relentless and unapologetic fat-shaming.

It just works.

In the same way that you cannot control what you find sexually attractive, you cannot control what you find disgusting — and one of the things that you find disgusting is excess fat.

Women should know that.

Society is punishing women with healthy maternal instincts.

Women who choose not to abort their kids and do whatever they have to do for their survival are shunned by their families, as well as shamed by a culture that portrays motherhood as chains and herpes and chlamydia as the badges of honor for the brave women who dared to Find Themselves.

This is an example from Reddit’s “Am I the Asshole?” community.

From the Reddit post:

I’m 19 and I had my daughter at 14, got pregnant at 13. It was a terrible situation at first, but I made it work. My mother made it clear from the start that she would give me no help at all with the baby, and I accepted that. I did think she was saying that just to scare me, but when I had my kid it turned out to be true, and I raised her on my own the best I could, including working nights at a shop every day (a small clothes shop where I could take my kid with me) at 14 so I could pay for her to go to daycare when I was at school, and I got all the equipment and clothes for free or very cheap from Facebook. The only person who helped me was my brother, who was 23 at the time. I am now a university student at one of my country’s top universities, and I live with my boyfriend of 2 years.

After proving that I could do it, my mom became an amazing grandmother and now she does occasionally help me out.

My 17 year old sister has been with her boyfriend since they were 14. They are saving up to move out when they turn 18 (they have both just turned 17, though), and my sister just found out she’s pregnant. She told me first. She told me she was keeping the baby, and she wanted me there when she told mom, for support and to remind mom it’s not always the end of your life.

So, the time came. She sat mom down, and told her. Mom immediately got PISSED. She blew up, saying pretty much the same stuff she said to me, and worse. My sister was crying, but she was standing her ground saying that she is keeping the baby, and then my sister said ‘you don’t scare me, I have a better support network than (my name)’.

Mom glared at me, and said, ‘well, I was hoping you would have a better life than her, but here we are again’.

I snapped. I told her that I chose to have my baby, raised her on my own, worked my ass off, all out of choice, and if my sister wanted to do the same, at least she would have the support of me and my partner, her bf’s family, and our brother too. Mom stormed out.

She sent me a text later saying that she doesn’t think I ruined my life, but she wanted to make my sister see teenage pregnancy for what it really is, and not just as ‘easy’ and ‘romanticised’ as she sees my life. I was horrified. My sister was 12 and very aware of my situation when I got pregnant, she knows it wasn’t easy and I just feel so disrespected.

AITA? I do get my mom’s point but feel so hurt.

Single mothers are ridiculously damaging to society, but there’s a deeper problem here and it’s not that men aren’t “stepping up” or whatever other malicious insanity the vagina-apologists usually come up with.

No, actually, the problem really is that men aren’t stepping up. Men aren’t stepping up, removing all women’s rights and taking back control over them.

Teenage girls can’t really be blamed for jumping onto the first dick that comes their way.

Their bodies are asking for it.

The media, society and culture are asking for it.

Goo holes gonna goo.

Whoever controls the media and pushed for equality and women’s rights is running a huge dysgenic attack on the population where women, who are functionally half-retarded animals unless under strict male supervision, are left to their own devices and fed a constant stream of corrupting ideas that only make sense in their half-retarded minds while given the right to vote and encouraged to lead.

You can’t really force your healthy teenage daughters not to want to have sex, but the next best thing you can do is to marry them to a man of your choosing.

At least you should be able to, but our modern environment is designed to take power away from men and give it to these doubly-drooling retards.

Teenage women are supposed to want sex. They are supposed to want to give birth to their babies. They are supposed to want to take care of them.

A drive to have sex is a drive to continue the existence of the species, and all living things that reproduce sexually have this drive. Even the insects are doing it.

That’s not the problem.

The problem is the corrupting environment we find ourselves in where their healthy instincts are wasted and they are punished for it.

They suffer because of it. We suffer because of it.

Our future suffers because of it.

Some woman wrote a post on the “Am I the Asshole?” (AITA) Reddit community asking if she was an asshole for running up to one of her male friends and platonically kissing him on the lips in front of her boyfriend.

From the Reddit post:

AITA for kissing my platonic male friend on the lips in front of my boyfriend?

So I’ve been with my boyfriend for 11 months now. He is American and I am not.

So a few months ago my childhood friend let me know he was coming to visit America and he would be staying in my area for a little while. I was so excited! I haven’t seen him in 2.5 years! I immediately told him I wanted him to stay with me while he was here. At first he told me he did not want to be a burden but after some begging he came around.

When I told my boyfriend about it he seemed very calm and accepting about it. I live in a 2 bedroom apartment and my childhood friend would be sleeping in my guest room for about 4 days. I was happy my bf was ok with it though and was also ecstatic for them to meet.

So today my childhood friend arrived! My bf and I picked him up from the airport and I was so incredibly excited to see him. We ran to each other and hugged and we exchanged a quick very platonic kiss on the lips after. I turned to my boyfriend to introduce them and he immediately looked uncomfortable and upset. He was very short and stiff with my friend and it was honestly just very awkward. The drive home was also a little awkward with him but my friend and I made great conversation catching up and sorts.

When we got home I showed him around my apartment and to his room and told him he could take as long as he wanted to get settled. My bf had went to my room and when I entered he immediately started yelling at me. He told me it was disgusting and disrespectful to kiss him like that on the lips. I was very confused and told him that this was very normal for us and my other friends and family.

We argued a little while longer and then he gave me an ultimatum that either my friend had to leave or he was gone. I told him this was incredibly unreasonable and I was hurt he was doing this. He said nothing and just left.

AITA?

EDIT: This is a culture thing! Very normal where I am from and my friend sees this platonic as well!

Tough spot, huh?

What would you have done?

Feeling bad when women do this kind of stuff is the result of having been brainwashed into thinking women are actual humans capable of the same things that men are.

It’s not that women are just incapable of the physical and mental feats of men. It’s not that they’re just incapable of creating civilization, inventing stuff, and achieving legendary feats — they are also incapable of loving anyone but themselves and their kids, and they’re not even that good at loving their kids.

This doesn’t mean that you should hate them. There’s really no reason to hate them. Hating them would be like hating a tree for not being a door or hating your computer for not being able to hug you.

The problem is the expectations that most men have of women.

Women aren’t loyal, they aren’t able to love like men are able to love, and they aren’t able to build the things that men are able to build. So what? They’re not supposed to do any of that.

Do you care if your car really loves you when you ride it?

What is even the point of women “loving” you as long as you get what you want out of them?

They are objects. Use them and enjoy them for what they can offer.

Don’t feel bad about what they can’t offer.

When she just wants to be cute and make you breakfast but her sister crushes her dreams.

Have you ever wondered what happens to women whose instincts are strong enough to put up a fight against their modern programming?

They get their hearts broken by the system’s enforcers — in this case, her own family.

This story from the Reddit “Am I the Asshole?” community shows the above mechanism in action.

“AITA” means “Am I the Asshole?”

From the Reddit post:

AITA [25] for telling my sister [19] that being a stay at home mom isn’t a career plan?

My sister has never put much thought into how she’s going to afford to be alive. She doesn’t have ambition.

Ever since she was little, when asked what she wants to be, she’d jokingly answer that her plan is to be a stay at home mom. She’s still saying it, but now she isn’t joking.

She doesn’t even have that much experience with kids! She’s never baby sat.

Recently she’s been telling family members she’s going to nursing school which is amazing! I wanted to talk to about it and praise her.

I visited home last weekend (she still lives with my parents) and asked her what her plans are — in a sisterly way not in a “this is a setup to lecture you way”. She said she’s been lying to the the family and that she plans to keep working her minimum wage job until she meets a man she wants to settle down with. From there the conversation went like this:

Me (irritated): there are no Prince Charming in real life, Rosie

Rosie (irritates): yea … I know … I’m not looking for a Prince Charming. I want to find a man to raise up.

Me: but you are. You want someone to come take over your life because you don’t have the motivation to do better on your own. If your whole life’s goal is to find a man to love you, it’s going to push you into the arms of the wrong kind of man. Also, how are you gonna “raise up” a man if you can’t even raise yourself up? Do you want to be like mom?

Rosie: no! I’m not going to be like mom! I’m going to do it better! I saw what she did and now I can do better!

Me: well do better but improving yourself before you get knocked up. You don’t remember but from 8 until 13 I watched you and (brother) every night while mom partied until 3 because she got pregnant too early, didn’t have time for herself, and resented us. That’s going to be you.

My sister was crying at this point said fuck you, and left.

My dad overheard and said I was too rough and she didn’t need to hear all that.

I think I was justified. Sometimes you have to be mean to get things through a person’s head.

AITA?

There is nothing wrong with her sister. She didn’t “put much thought into how she’s going to afford to be alive” because that’s not a woman’s job. That’s a man’s job. She is a healthy woman with healthy female instincts and this evil, heartless bitch is trying to shatter her chances of finding happiness in life.

Imagine being such a soulless, bitter and dried-up harpy that you make your sister cry telling her that she’s stupid for wanting to find a man that she finds sexually attractive, make babies with him and help him build up his empire.

Imagine telling your little sister that she should go become a college slut and waste the peak of her beauty and fertility being the free sex toy of hundreds of random men that won’t ever give anything back to her.

Women are very susceptible to this kind of shaming, especially when compared to men, so even if this teenage woman somehow resists the brainwashing, it won’t be without suffering.

“Also, how are you gonna “raise up” a man if you can’t even raise yourself up?”

She doesn’t need to raise herself up before raising up a man because when it comes to men and women, the whole is greater than the sum of its parts. You need both to create life, and as such, you can consider them to be complementary.

If she makes breakfast and dinner, if she keeps the house clean and orderly, if she makes sure clothes are clean and ready to go whenever they’re needed, if she takes care of herself as she takes care of all of her man’s belongings, she’s already “raising him up” and being helpful. Bonus points if she makes beautiful kids for him to make both of them happier and even more motivated to grow his empire.

She doesn’t need to waste her fertility and another 10 years of her life studying or building a career in order to be able to do that.

In fact, she needs not to waste her fertility and another 10 years of her life if she wants to do that.

When she knows that you know.

Here’s a story from Reddit’s “Am I the Asshole?” community showing a bit of the “pretty normal stuff” that teenage girls are engaging in.

From the Reddit post:

For some background, my niece will be 16 in September. My brother and his ex divorced about 2 years ago but she’s in the military and while they share custody they decided it would be best for the kids to live full time with him since he has better access to schools, family and stability. I am very close to both my niblings. I’m 24 for reference.

A week or so ago my brother found my niece’s “sex diary” and snooped. He took pics and sent them to me and honestly, having a been a teenage girl it wasn’t too bad. It was pretty normal stuff like she’d had a kissing contest with her friends and she had won by kissing 24 guys in a week. She’s done oral sex and really wants to get on the pill. I guess the most “troubling” thing to my brother was that she seems to have a fixation with older guys (to me this is totally normal since teen guys sucked) and would “do anything” for a 29 year old military pilot she met while visiting her mom this summer.

My brother asked me to talk with her but not reveal that he (I guess we) had snooped. I wasn’t sure how to get her to open up so I invited her over for a sleepover and I opened up first by asking her if she wanted to read my old teen diary for the “cringe” factor. She did. The stuff I had written down was very similar to hers (I had a massive crush on my swim coach, and loved having my boobs felt up was what I wrote most about). She actually then showed me her diary (which I didn’t reveal I read most of). This actually led us to have a nice discussion that these were just her inner thoughts, she would never really try to sleep with an older guy and finally if she ever wanted to get on birth control I would help her out. In my mind it was a great and productive conversation.

Well being the teenager she is, she went home and was being a little shit to my brother and for whatever reason she revealed that I had shown her my diary and wanted to sleep with our junior swim coach. My brother took this completely the wrong way and called me furious that I had shown her my diary to give her “permission” to do the things I did when I was a teen. I tried to explain to him that I was glad to help but he put me in a really rough spot by talking to her while protecting the fact that he snooped so I did the best I could. he said “no you acted like an fucking asshole” and hung up on me and won’t answer calls.

Was I the asshole? I honestly meant no harm and was trying to help.

Translation below:

“HEY GUISE so my brother asked me to tell my niece not to be a huge slut and I just kinda told her that I’m also a huge slut and we had like a huge slut moment of huge slut connection and now she’s happy that she’s such a huge slut. Am I the asshole?”

It’s easy to shun women’s sexuality.

Most men want to believe that the girl they have on their minds is not like the other girls and that she doesn’t do those things. But she is like the other girls and she does do those things. Even if she’s not doing those things right now, she’s most certainly thinking about doing those things.

And that’s okay.

Taking their sexuality away from them would remove what makes it fun to interact with them in the first place.

These are feeble little creatures that want you to pick them up and carry them around with your superior strength, making them feel how small, defenseless and protected they are.

If you extinguish this burning desire they feel to have those things done to them, what are you left with?

You’d be left with an empty, boring, useless husk of a human.

Teenage girls want men to sex them. This is just a fact.

Instead of being in denial of this, it would be better to channel these urges they feel into something productive that would bring joy to them and to society as a whole.

Fathers used to accomplish that by marrying their young daughters to men they approved of as soon as the girls started getting the tingles down there, because it was known that if you leave a girl unsupervised while she’s getting the tingles down there, you’re guaranteed to come back and find that she’s mysteriously transformed into Miley Cyrus.

Unsupervised

Supervised

These days, strategically-designed age of consent laws and the corruption of marriage ensure that teenage girls will be legally forbidden from forming long-lasting relationships with the men they’d be happy to make babies with, but since their natural sexual urges can’t be suppressed by law, these young women become sitting ducks for the corrupting and subversive media.

It is a slut industry.

All of our women are turning into mass-produced versions of Miley Cyrus.

When she poops in the wrong bathroom.

The Internet often reveals uncanny wisdom where you least expect to find it.

Some woman posted on the “Am I the Asshole?” Reddit community to ask if she is an asshole for breaking THE ONE RULE her boyfriend didn’t want her to break.

From the Reddit post:

My boyfriend was my best friend growing up and he’s always showed OCD traits, but has never gotten a formal diagnosis. I am not being an armchair psychologist when I say he has OCD – pretty much everyone who has spent an extended amount of time with him has agreed that he has it. He is deathly afraid of germs and getting sick and even the word “vomit” makes him sick. I’ve tried encouraging him to get help but he puts it off.

He owns his own apartment which has two bathrooms. I stay there a few nights a week, but usually me staying there comes with rules. Most of the rules are easy to follow, usually simple things like shower before getting into his bed or leaving my shoes near the front the door.

However, the reason I’m posting about this, is he has a dumb rule. One bathroom is for peeing, and the other is for pooping. The bathroom in the masterbedroom is the one where we can pee, and the other is for poop. He says it’s because it puts him further away when he is in his room.

The other night I had came over after eating burritos, and woke up to the worst stomachache of my life. Suddenly I had to go, and I just skipped over to the masterbath to relieve myself and, of course, that included going number two. Somehow he had woken up while getting out of bed and he noticed I’d been there for a while. When I came out, he asked if I pooped, and when I said yes he got really frustrated and told me that was the one rule he really didn’t want me to break (it’s also where he keeps his toothbrush, and now claims he has to get a whole new one). I told him it was ridiculous and I really had to go, and he replied that it was his place and brought up the fact that I don’t pay the bills there. That part kind of hurt, because I am in-between jobs and he knows that.

Eventually I just packed my stuff up and went home where I can use the bathroom freely. I tried texting him about that night but he insists he wasn’t in the wrong somehow. Was I the asshole?

It certainly wouldn’t be very difficult for her to just poop in the designated pooping bathroom. She’s clearly not girlfriend material if she can’t even follow one arbitrary rule. This guy is a genius, and a gentleman. Women should be required to do things that make no sense as a test of their obedience. Like in the army, how they break recruits by ordering them to do completely useless shit just so they get used to the idea that “you do it because you are told to do it.”

When she fails The Poop Test.

I don’t know if every man can afford to have two bathrooms, but if he can, he should definitely use them to apply The Poop Test to girlfriend candidates just to see if they have the right mindset. If they fail The Poop Test, you can be pretty sure that they are one day going to be doing random bitch shit like putting rice in your casserole while cheating on your diet.

From another Reddit post:

Diet ideologies aside, I got upset with my wife when she put rice in our cabbage casserole. I’ve done a low carb diet for almost 8 months. I am down almost 60 pounds with only 10 more to go. She started at the same time but has cheated and hasn’t done as well, basically gaining back what she lost to start. I do most of the cooking and always provide for my kids carb options with my no carb meals. Example, I would cook a pot of rice separate from the casserole for them to eat, giving them the option to eat rice or not. I noticed the rice in the casserole and asked if she had a portion aside, ‘No, you will be fine, it won’t kill you.’ Well it didn’t sit well with me and I didn’t eat but made something else. I’m upset, she has been supportive but recently is making comments that I’m too skinny, I should stop. AITA?

Either they obey, or they don’t.

If Japanese soldiers can be ordered to disembowel themselves, a woman can be told where to poop.

Stock photo of retarded obese woman trying to make her back wider.

Ugh, this is a tough one.

What’s worse: being a single mom, or being fat?

Daily Mail:

A 29-year-old man has revealed that he had a female personal trainer fired from his local gym after he discovered her fat-shaming clients on social media.

Reddit user Oilsticklover98 took to the online social forum on Monday, July 22, to reveal in a now viral post that he got a personal trainer fired after he added her on social media and discovered that she had been ‘discreetly’ taking photos of ‘fat people’ working out to make fun of them.

Although he said her actions angered him, he worries that he might have done the wrong thing by getting her fired, as he said he knows she needs to provide for her kids. Therefore, he asked fellow users on the forum for their advice.

There’s a non-zero chance his post on the “Am I the Asshole?” Reddit community is a kind of humblebrag that’s actually intended to encourage other men to fight against the scourge of single moms.

Let’s take a look at what he wrote.

From the Reddit post:

For context, I am really into body building and have been going to the gym 3-4 times a week since I was 13 (now 29).

There is a personal trainer, Ashley, at my current gym thats also a single mother of two. I mention this as it’s the reason I think I’m probably an asshole since she clearly needs the job to support her kids.

Anyway, I’m not really friends with her, but she’s always really nice to me and has flirted with me a lot previously. We talk occasionally. Yesterday she asked if I wanted to add her on social media and I figured why not, so I said yes.

Later in my workout I started looking through her posts out of boredom when I saw a picture of a morbidly obese person along with a caption making fun of them trying to run. The picture was clearly taken at the gym.

This really angered me because they’re trying to improve their health, and the last thing they need is some attractive young girl talking shit about them, even if it’s not to their face. I scrolled through a few more posts and sure enough this is a regular thing. She discreetly takes pictures of fat people to make fun of when they’re working out.

Really really pissed me off to see these people being made fun of for trying to fix their life. Without thinking I just went straight to the owners office (we know each other well) to show him. Ashley was fried immediately.

When I told my GF she said I’d let my anger get the best of me because now her kids will suffer if she can’t find another good job. So now I feel kinda shit about doing that, AITA?

From what he wrote, he either:

1. Knows how bad single mothers are for society and that Ashley tried to test how likely he was to end up as the provider for her and her kids, so he decided to bring RIGHTEOUS JUSTICE to the world
2. Is so brainwashed by the Jewish media that he really gets pissed off when fat people are made fun of

Both options are possible.

I guess this is one of those half empty or half full kind of things.

People on Reddit say that he’s not the asshole and that it’s okay to fire single mothers to defend the feelings of fat people.

On the one hand, fat is visual terrorism and fat shaming saves lives. Fat people shouldn’t be out on the streets, let alone in a gym. They should stay locked up with only drinking water with a bit of salt in it until they burn off their weakness.

But on the other hand, any excuse for punishing single mothers for all of the problems they cause is a good excuse.

Ideally, we’d ostracize single mothers and fat people.

But the man from this story asked if he was the asshole, so you have to choose a side here and you have to choose NOW… if you can.

Would you rather suffer from the problems resulting from being raised by a single mother or the problems resulting from being raised by two obese parents?

Go ahead, pick your poison.

“Innocent” girl browsing the dark parts of the Internet.

Girls in their early teens nowadays are engaging in all kinds of stuff that older generations don’t even suspect.

These posts from the Reddit “Am I the Asshole?” community show a glimpse into the current state of teenage women.

First case, from the Reddit post:

My daughter is thirteen, and very introverted. I love her, and she’s the funniest, smartest person I know, but she doesn’t have very good social skills. She has severe anxiety and has struggled with clinical depression since she was nine. She’s my only child, FYI.

Our family’s moving between states at the moment and currently staying at a friends’ house for a month. This whole summer, she’s been very distracted by her phone. She’s always been an avid reader, and when we asked what she was doing all the time she said she was just reading stories online. We assumed it was e-books or something.

We noticed she went over the data limit for the month, so her father asked for her phone and the password. She said no to giving us the password, but agreed to turn the phone off for the rest of the month to avoid going over more. We were understandably concerned, she’s normally very complacent, respectful, and not at all defensive about her phone. So we threatened to take it away entirely unless she told us. She did, after a screaming, sobbing shit-fit, the likes of which I haven’t seen since she was a toddler. When we opened it, we found tons of extremely explicit fanfiction. She’s never shown any interest in sex before, and all of this was between two male characters from a TV show we knew she loved (though we didn’t know how much). There was fanart too. Not all of it was explicit, some of it just seemed like plain old creative writing, but I went through all of it in front of her. She said she’s not using it to get off, she was just curious and found it interesting. I said I was going to start getting into the community too so that I could understand it and she could talk about it with me, but she seemed very opposed to the idea. She begged me not to talk about it more with her father (they have a weird, cold relationship, unfortunately) and I didn’t in front of her. But we find this very concerning.

Given what I know about her lack of social skills, I couldn’t help but feel this wasn’t helping. So I deleted all of what she had saved as well as the pictures. I don’t care that it was gay in nature, I’ve been pretty sure since she was six that she’s lesbian. But this can’t be normal or healthy. I took her phone for a week, removed the password, and when we see her reading things now we always ask her specifically to tell us what it is. She seems to have stopped, I’m not going to check her browsing history.

I told some of my girlfriends about it and they said I was being controlling and insensitive, and that telling them about it was humiliating for her. She doesn’t know I told them, so it can’t be humiliating, and I just want what’s best for her. I can’t imagine this is.

Am I the asshole?

You can see what the consensus on Reddit is from the comments down below:

YTA — this is a typical phase a lot of pre-teen girls go through. i myself did when i was younger (18F now) and am perfectly fine. being 13, it’s a time where you explore your sexuality and are curious about it. it was unnecessary for you to violate her privacy and, in a way, ruin her trust in you.

edit: and “she seems to have stopped”? lol nope. she’s just reading late at night within the security of her room.

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Yeah one of my friends had a similar experience with her daughter who is about 12. I told her I read that stuff when I was about her age and went even further watching porn online back then. This is pretty much the norm with internet access being widely available, now.

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I was about 15 when I was caught by mom reading stories like that online. Like OP’s daughter I was scolded and punished. All that led to was covering my online tracks better which was pretty easy since my mom is kinda tech illiterate. Don’t get me wrong I love my momma but she doesn’t know the half of what I do online and she never will because what happened when I was a teen.

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I don’t know what it is with pre-teens and male gay fanfiction but damn they love it. I reckon I read more Wattpad stories in my pre-teens then actual books over my childhood

On the one hand, it’s natural for 13-year-old girls to be interested in sex. On the other hand, it’s understandable that the mother is creeped out by her daughter’s uh… particular interests.

But it is what it is.

I can vouch for this male gay fan fiction thing being ridiculously popular among pubescent girls. I personally know of 3 cases of girls that were REALLY INTO IT back when they were around 12. One of those cases is blood-related, and she was so open about it that it was clear that this thing was deemed as normal among her group of friends.

Here’s another Reddit post with a similar case:

My daughter (15) lives between me and my ex. I think my ex is a bit too progressive and maybe lax in her parenting, but usually I’m outvoted between her and my daughter. Besides, we think showing one set of rules between both households is better for my daughter. The whole “united front” thing, and punishments and values are mostly the same no matter who she’s living with. I support my ex in most parenting decisions she makes, and I expect her to support me as much as possible.

System’s breaking down because she won’t.

This week I found what only can be described as porn on her phone, and after reviewing the internet history I’ve discovered plenty on her laptop. I knew my daughter read fanfiction, but this isn’t just fanfiction (there’s original works) and it’s not the kind that is appropriate for a kid her age. And I’m not only objecting to her reading X-rated smut (but I do object to that), I’m mostly concerned by the fact that all of it involves some form of torture and is non-consensual. Graphic, non-consensual smut.

I took away her phone, put child locks on her laptop, and grounded her. I called my ex to tell her to do the same, and she had the gall to tell me I’m being a tyrant and to reverse all my punishments because our daughter hasn’t done anything wrong. I was obviously confused, and she continued to accuse me of stunting our daughter’s sexual development by shaming her for a non-con/BDSM kink. But, like, non-consensual fantasies? When she’s fifteen?

I told my wife I’m not bending on this and I expect her to support me the way I’ve always supported her, and she returned that she can’t support me shaming our daughter and that when she comes back to my ex’s house none of my punishments will apply. She’s also just started talking about bringing our daughter back earlier this time before I “corrupt” her, which has stuck with me. My ex has an entirely different position I can’t even fathom, and I’m left wondering if I’m in the wrong.

AITA? Am I overreacting to this?

Women are weird, and they have these weird interests and this weird side to them that often makes men uncomfortable. Fighting to completely suppress their dark nature is a waste of energy and will eventually result in their degeneracy manifesting in some other way. You can’t make them not like rape, so why not piggy-back on their rape-affinity and make them submit to their husband?

Marriage, back in the day, used to mean wives completely submitting to husbands without being able to deny them sex. Not being able to deny sex to a man they find attractive is a very appealing idea to women, a fact that is evidenced by the popularity of this “non-consensual” fan fiction and the success of books such as Fifty Shades of Grey.

Nowadays marriage is not what it was originally intended to be. Wives can deny sex to their husbands, take half of their stuff whenever they feel like it, take their kids and destroy their lives for no reason other than boredom.

You know what would keep wives from getting bored?

Rape.

Rape is always the answer.

What I want you to get out of the reading of these cases is that taking advantage of women’s nature is better than fighting it. This doesn’t mean liberating them or accepting their degeneracy. It means channeling this side of them as fuel for something productive.

Teenage girls are going to be interested in sex, so why not marry them to good men instead of letting them deal with their lust on their own?

From another Reddit post:

My little sister is staying with me for the summer, and she will celebrate her 15th birthday here in about 3 weeks. I am 32M (she’s my half-sister, we only share our dad, hence the age difference). She’s currently alone here with me and my SO, and her parents will join us for the birthday party.

Everything was going perfectly for the past 3 weeks, she’s a really good kid, loves to help in the kitchen, does chores (voluntarily!), takes our dogs for a walk and so on. But several days ago, I caught her taking photos of herself in her underwear. First, I was shocked at what sort of underwear she has for a 14 year old (lacey red g-string). Then, I saw a cell phone in her hand. I told her to get dressed and come talk to me.

She was crying before we even started to talk. I told her I’m giving her a chance to go into her gallery and delete whatever photos she took before she gives me her phone to check it. It took her several minutes to delete everything, then she gave it to me and I looked at all the photos. I asked her who she was taking them for and how she’s sending them. She said she likes a boy (16) and she sends them to him on Messenger. I asked if I would find these photos in Messenger if I go to her conversation with the boy. She begged me not to open the conversation (and I didn’t). Then I asked where she got the underwear and she said he bought it for her. I asked her if she’s having sex with him (or anyone else), she said no.

I gave her a whole lecture about what is and isn’t legal, what kind of websites her photos could end up on if the boy forwards them, why it’s weird that a 16yo boy is giving a 14yo girl a g-string as a gift and why it’s dangerous to trust anyone with your nudes. I told her about creepy old men online and revenge porn and consent and the inability to give it at 14. I told her she could ruin not only her life, but that boy’s life as well if she doesn’t stop. And I don’t feel like I’ve exaggerated much. She’s promised not to do it again, she deleted her conversation history with the boy and asked him if he could delete her photos because she’s embarrassed, but he said that he likes them and refused to do it. It is what it is.

Finally, I told her I’ll have to talk to her parents, so I spoke to her mom. Now, her mom thinks I’ve done some huge horrific mistake. She doesn’t think it’s weird sending a boy photos of your early teen body in “sexy” underwear and she thinks it’s healthy (?!) that her daughter is “in love”. She’s appalled that I told her about stuff like revenge porn, and threatened to take the kid back home sooner than we agreed unless I leave her alone to do whatever she wants. So now I look like a dickhead and my little sister is confused. I’m pretty sure she’s 1-2 conversations with her mom away from also thinking I was a mean dickhead and just continuing to send the boy her photos.

Two opposite ends of the destruction spectrum: repression (brother’s posture) and empowerment (the girl’s mom’s posture).

The productive alternative is to accept that the girl has natural desires and to help her satisfy those in a way that will bring her long-term happiness and prosperity, which is getting her married to a good man and forcing her to submit to him.

Rape will heal the world.

Some white girl’s fight-or-flight response was a definite FLIGHT when she suddenly bumped into a black-skinned male, and now that male has asked the “Am I the Asshole?” Reddit community if he’s an asshole (AITA) for wanting her to apologize.

From the Reddit post:

AITA for wanting an apology from a girl that I believe got scared of me because I’m Black?

this summer I’ve decided to stay on my college campus to take summer classes and to work. One of my friends recently started dating a new girl and he brought her to a party to introduce her. Turns out we crossed paths once, but not in a good way

About two months ago I was jogging at 10 PM on a weekday night around the campus (we are a huge school so there were a few people around) when I saw this new art installation I hadn’t seen before. I stopped to look at the installation and the plaque on it. Now I had my AirPods in and a beanie over my head so I couldn’t hear anyone approaching me from behind, but I saw something out of the corner of my eye so I turned around. There was a short white girl on the sidewalk right behind me, so I gave a nod, a shy smile and I said “hi”. She looks at my face like I’m a ghost, says something to herself (it could have been “fuck!”) and she sprints away like the devil was after her. She sprinted all the way down the street until she had to turn the corner maybe 200 meters away.

I’m 6’2 180 pounds and I’m dark skinned (my father is from Cote D’Ivoire and my mother Vietnamese) so I’ve been getting the suspicious stares and the purse clutches and the “people crossing the street to avoid me” deal all my life. Ive learned to deal with it. But this was on another level.

So me and this girl were both shocked to meet each other at this party last Saturday. I recognized her partially because she is wearing the same rainbow socks and shirt she wore that night and for her….. I guess she remembered the big scary Black man that dared say “hi” to her. When we shook hands, she said “are you….?” And I said “yes, I’m not dangerous you see, haha”. She uncomfortably laughed then walked away. She privately told my friend what happened, then my friend asked me what happened on that night, and he was understanding. He said she got a little freaked out that night, and that she wants me to understand that she felt she had to run. I didn’t think I did anything wrong that night and I tried my hardest to not be menacing, plus I felt a little bit insulted that she couldn’t tell me that herself in a public place with her boyfriend that knows I’m not a threat

I told my friend that I won’t get in the way of his relationship, but that I’m not speaking to his girlfriend until she reaches out or apologizes.

Now that’s a smart girl.

You see, white girls are getting murdered in horrific ways by blacks, which puts a whole new meaning to the phrase “once you go black, you never go back.”

If you go black, you won’t come back.

If more white girls ran away scared at the sight of black males, less white girls would die at the hands of black males.

This should be the new “stranger danger.”

It’s not just about blacks being dangerous to lone women. Even if a woman is surrounded by people, she’s not safe if a black male is there.

She could get sucker punched and get a broken eye socket for no reason.

Daily Mail:

Shocking security camera footage shows a man pacing back and forth swinging his arms before hitting the woman twice while her back was turned.

The unnamed 44-year-old woman reportedly suffered a broken eye socket in the attack at around 1am on Monday in the downtown area in Portland, Oregon.

Daniel Tuski Bertrand, 25, was arrested and charged with 4th-degree misdemeanor assault, according to KOIN 6 News.

The footage, shows the woman walking towards the walkway and reaching over to a nearby bouncer shortly before the apparent attack.

The man, allegedly Bertrand, continuously crosses his arms in front of his body and appears to wait until the woman looked away before striking her in the back of her head.

A second hit to her face causes her to fall into the arms of a man nearby.

As men nearby surround the woman, the attacker jumps around on the ground before walking away.

Daniel Tuski Bertrand

White women have to understand that black males will break their eye sockets and burn them alive, crush their skulls with a rock even after they offer sex in exchange for their lives, chop them up and impale them with broomsticks and all kinds of horrors.

This is not a game.

This is not 50 shades of anything.

This is pure black.

A woman has asked Reddit’s “Am I the Asshole?” community if she’s an asshole for telling her husband that she never wants to have sex again 15 years deep into marriage.

The post reads:

My husband and I have been married for about 15 years, dating for much longer. He’s my soulmate and I can’t imagine being with anyone other than him, he feels the same way. I’ve never really enjoyed sex that much, but my husband has an incredibly high sex drive so we used to have sex every other day. I’ve had sex with many partners (upwards of 30) in both relationships and hookups and I’ve just never really enjoyed it. It’s inevitable that you’re going to ask, but yes they can make me orgasm, I just don’t like orgasming with a partner versus orgasming with myself. It just doesn’t feel good to me.

There’s something about sex that I just don’t really like (please don’t say I need therapy, it’s insulting to think that everybody must LOVE sex. I’ve also been to therapy before and we’ve come to the conclusion that it’s mostly just a preference). I also don’t identify as asexual though, because I do get horny and love masturbating, but I find it more of a release if that makes sense? It’s more of an intimate moment with myself. I can try and explain more in the comments if this doesn’t really make sense, but it’s more a nonsexual release and enjoyment of exploring my own body.

As we’ve gotten older with kids we’ve stopped having sex as frequently, two to three times a month at most. He knows I’ve never been a huge fan of sex, but I’ve recently told him that I want to stop having sex. I find it more a chore and I don’t really gain much pleasure from it. He was so hurt and upset saying that I’m going to trap him in a loveless and sexless marriage.

I told him that if he really wanted to have sex with other people, he could have sex with other women, I just wouldn’t wanna know about it. He was so upset and said that I was the only woman he wants to have sex with and that he could never imagine having sex with somebody else. A couple days ago he caught me mastubating (something I do once a day) and he was even more hurt. He said how come you get horny but you don’t want to have sex with me? I tried explaining what I typed above but he got even more hurt. We really love each other and have an amazing relationship aside from this, but he thinks I’m an asshole for making an executive decision about our sex life and trapping him in a lifetime without sex. So AITA for having a preference?

tl;dr have never really liked sex, decided I still want to masturbate but no longer have sex with my husband

edit: everyone seems to think my husband is going to divorce me over this, we’ve discussed it and divorce isn’t even something he’s considering. Redactors are so quick to pull the divorce card when in reality there are so many other aspects to a heathy relationship that can’t be explain in 3000 characters. Our marriage is strong, supportive and loving in many other ways. I don’t feel like we need sex to still love each other

Notice that when talking about sex, she said “I find it more a chore and I don’t really gain much pleasure from it,” implying that she doesn’t find the experience painful or traumatic and that she’s pretty neutral towards it, which means that she’d like to stop doing something that her husband likes and wants just because it isn’t a big deal for her.

Most people replying to her post are calling her an asshole, and with good reason.

Below are some of the best replies. “YTA” means “you are the asshole.”

Flip this into something else. Your husband comes to you one day, and says “Actually honey, I’ve never really enjoyed talking to you. I love you, but talking to you is just a chore. I have decided that we will continue our marriage in all respects, but I am not going to talk to you anymore. We will still hug and have sex and watch movies together and text memes to each other — all other things that are fundamental to a marriage — but no more talking (because surely you would not say that merely talking is the only thing that defines a marriage).”

Would this revelation be a bigass fuckin betrayal and disappointment that you wish he had told you 15 years ago? Would you force him to be reduced to a paid phone chat call center person?

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If it’s not part of your idea of what a marriage is, that’s absolutely fine, but this may be the end of your marriage.

Going forward, you might struggle to find someone who wants to share their life and love with you, but who is asexual or shares your idea of what marriage is.

NTA as it’s your body and your right to choose what you do with it.

However there’s a touch of YTA for telling him to go get some on the side rather than offering to separate/divorce so he might have a chance at what he considers a full and loving marriage and all that that entails.

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This is fucked up. You can truly love your spouse and be upset that your partner of over a decade is suddenly taking sex off of the table. Thats a massive change in the dynamics of your marriage. Sex isnt a big deal to you and its clearly not a way that you express your love and devotion to your husband, but it is one, if not THE way most people express love physically to their partners.

Acting like hes the asshole for forcing (are you kidding me with that verbiage by the way?) an intimate aspect of your marriage is pretty manipulative. Acting like hes such a dick for desiring a physical relationship with the woman he loves just shows how little youre trying to empathize with your husband.

Theres nothing wrong with not wanting to have sex. Your problem is that you think your husband should be completely fine without a physical relationship, and that hes somehow damaged for needing one with his wife.

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This is why I think YTA.

Your husband enjoys sex and obviously believes it’s part of a healthy relationship. To him it’s not a “chore”. Its been a part of your relationship, even if it’s a sacrifice you’ve made, for the last 15 years. He is still with you despite his high sex drive and doesn’t want to leave you/ find other women who will have sex with him.

Meet him half way FFS. Abstaining from sex forever is zero compromise and I think you’re forgetting that you’ll be forcing him to do something he doesn’t want to do. Compromise is huge part of marriage you are missing above. You’re being super hypocritical. You’re allowed to not like sex. You’re allowed to say no to sex. But completing writing off your husbands needs is so, so messed up.

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Obviously he’s not going to “force”/rape you, but a lot of people who love their partners want/expect them to do things they don’t enjoy. Maybe it’s dinner with grumpy in-laws, maybe it’s watching movies you think are stupid, maybe it’s having sex you don’t enjoy. Don’t blame him for what he wants, or suggest that he would stop wanting that if he loved you. On the contrary, if you love him, you should want to make him happy, and to pleasure him. This is a complicated issue because yes you have a right to do what you want with your body, and if sex was painful or traumatic for you that would be different, but if you just “don’t enjoy it much” and find it a chore, then you’re being extremely selfish. Chores are part of life, and doing favors/chores for your partner is a pretty basic part of relationships, and this isn’t just any chore, this is one that can bring him pleasure he can’t get on his own.

Imagine that your masturbaion was only possible if your husband was hand-cranking a generator that powered your vibrator, and he knew that you craved those orgasms but instead of enjoying supporting you, he said “this feels like a chore so I don’t want to help you enjoy an orgasm ever again. Go ask someone else to power your vibrator’s generator if you want.” He’d be a total asshole, right? Yeah that’s you.

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YTA. You obviously are able to put aside enough time and privacy to masturbate once a day but you’re hung up on having sex twice a month with someone you’ve been with for over 15 years and have kids with? He doesn’t want to have sex with other people, he wants to have sex with his wife. Look at it from his perspective – his wife has no problem jerking off once a day but wants him to never touch her again without any discussion about it.

At the very least you should be going to couples therapy to find a compromise or result that works for both of you.

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Wow I am so sorry for your husband. You have serious issues and YTA. I hope he divorces you soon so you can have all the time you need to masterbate alone. Gross.

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I wonder how she would feel if he asked her not to masturbate at all and remain married to him?She would leave him a heartbeat.

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YTA. How about you stop getting yourself off EVERYDAY and see what a week or two of abstinence does for your drive to have sex with your husband??

No matter what those people told the wife, she won’t change her mind. She won’t start having sex with her husband again, and if she does, the damage is already done.

Imagine giving someone more than 15 years of your life only for them to drop the “we’re not having sex ever again” bomb on you.

Also, now that we are at it: Imagine giving your wife and daughter everything they ever needed only to have your wife plot your demise because she found out that you fucked another woman on the side a couple of times and have another kid.

Another post from the same Reddit community reads:

My husband and I have been married for almost two decades. We have a daughter who is my favorite person on this earth. She is so fantastic. She will be starting her senior year of high school and is preparing to apply for colleges.

I was contacted recently by another woman, who informed me that my husband had an affair with her, and when she found out about me, he arranged to pay child support for their child under the table so that I wouldn’t find out. She sent me a number of documents recording bank transfers, which I was able to match to transfers from our accounts, as well as photos of my husband with their child through the years. She also provided the dates of his visits to her, which line up with several of his business trips.

I was totally devastated and took the time to think it over and verify everything before I confronted my husband. I have decided that I am going to wait a year until I tell him that I know and file for divorce. It will be a terrible year for me but I know I can fake it since he’s traveling for work a lot anyway. I have decided to do this for several reasons:

Our daughter will be applying to college soon and will be starting a really important year. I don’t want to blow her life up with a divorce and the bombshell that her father was unfaithful and now she has a sibling that neither of us knew about.

My husband has many more financial resources than I do. I am well aware that if I file for divorce while our daughter still lives at home, he will leave me to care for her and will make me fight tooth and nail for monetary support and will likely drain me with legal fees, as he tends to be litigious. I make enough to support myself comfortably, but not enough to comfortably support myself and my daughter.

I fear that opening this door will open others. That is, I worry that he may have other children that I don’t know about, which would only magnify the hurt for both me and my daughter, and I don’t think that now is the time to handle it.
My question is, does my plan make me an asshole? I feel slimy not telling him right now and faking my affection for him, but I fear for my daughter’s wellbeing and my own ability to support us. AITA?

Edit: just wanted to add that my daughter will be 18 in September, so child support for the next year isn’t as cut and dry

Her husband had sex with another woman and had a bastard child. Oh, the end of the world. Definitely enough reason to nuke the marriage despite him never failing to provide.

People are encouraging her to destroy his life.

From the comments:

NTA he deserve everything that’s coming for him. Use the time to lawyer up, and gather evidence, document his assets.

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And talk to the best lawyers in town, that way there is a conflict of interest when he goes to talk to them. Also, hire a private investigator to get more dirt on this lovely piece of work. You’re a good mom for protecting your daughter while you can. I’m sorry this happened to you.

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I would like to add to this. Try to get your hands on as much cash as you can without causing suspicion. Lots of extra things come up Senior year. Inflate everything. If he’s gone a lot, fake home emergencies. Plumber, electric, whatever you can feasibly get away with to hoard cash.

Don’t feel bad about anything. You are being a good mom. Fuck him!

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NTA. You do whatever you think you need to that is best for you and your child. Fuck him.

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NTA—but please consult with a lawyer before you take this route. You may end up screwing yourself—for example it’s possible to get court ordered child support or an agreement to fund college while your child is under 18, but if you divorce after she’s 18, that won’t happen. He should be the one paying your legal fees if he’s the primary provider, as well. Please consult a lawyer.

In this case, the wife wants to destroy her husband because he looked for sex elsewhere. In the previous case, the wife took away sex from her husband’s life.

In marriage, wives can do both: take sex away from you and also destroy your life because you went looking for sex elsewhere.

They can also get upset when their husband masturbates in bed. You know, it’s not enough to ignore his needs, they also want to ignore that he has needs that are being unmet.

From another post from the same Reddit community:

My husband (26) and I (26) have been together for 6 years and married for 1. This has been an ongoing issue through our entire relationship. I truly don’t mind if he masturbates because I understand that we all have needs, but I am a very light sleeper and between the light of his phone and the shaking from the motion it wakes me up. He’ll stop for a minute, I go back to sleep, and then we repeat this cycle another 5-10 times until he finishes.

I find this really disrespectful to me. I have told him many times that this irritates me and I make him aware of my irritation every time he wakes me up. Last night, however, he acted like I was being completely unreasonable about it. After the 5th time of waking up and trying to get him to stop I moved out to the couch. Like I said, I don’t care if he does it, I don’t care where he does it and when he does it as long as it’s not in bed when I’m trying to sleep.

AITA here?

These aren’t horror stories.

These are regular marriage stories.